
the view from the top of Cairn O'Mount, looking directly over my parents' house and to the North Sea
It has been a long journey for my parents. My being gay was very difficult for them at first. Eventually, they would visit my home with my partner. First my mother, then my father. It meant many Christmases apart. Me apart from my parents. Me apart from my partner. One parent apart from another.

Here comes the rain again...you see the wall of rain, coming in sheets...
Eventually my parents were able to come and visit us, our house-mine and my partner's. And a few years ago, Christmas was spent here in London. My parents, my partner and I.

yet, here, protected by Lochnagar, the rain is partitioned...
I'd been with Xfe for over a year before my parents knew about him. They met him in February, at my party in Paris, for the very first time. It was even better that I thought-my brother, my parents and I had all been out, touring. They went back to the hotel, and I went to get some medicine from the chemist for my brother's partner who had been resting at the hotel under the weather (I think she had too much by way of celebration the evening before). Mon C had been working in Paris that day, but had finished early. By the time I got back, he was in the Georges V bar with my parents, the introductions done, without me.
Long story short....we all needed to realise we were family. On the back of that weekend's happy vibe I asked (knowing it would be fine) my mother if I could bring mon C home. She realised herself that it was about time. So this was our weekend for it. We had a lovely time. We did all the things I asked. My father took us all the highland places I'd asked him to take us to. In short, they treated him like my partner*.

Mon C and Fern, with Loch Muick behind (pronounced Loch Mick).
When we were in the Alps a couple of weeks ago, visiting my in-laws, I did hear Xfe start mentioning Christmas to gauge his mother's reaction. Cut to this weekend I asked mon C if it was a runner, and he said it was sorted his end.

And so, the rain arrives...
So, this year it's Christmas with my parents (at theirs). Next year with his...and so on. Now, none of us loose out.
*small steps. We still slept in separate beds, albeit in the same room.






